Long-lasting relationships are always admirable; it\’s nice when someone can say they\’ve been with their partner for 20+ years. I hate to brag, but I\’m one of those people.
But I also know that those years are not all rosy.
To get through the crises that make you wonder if it\’s worth it to keep trying, or to keep holding on to the love you have for each other thanks to the good memories you share.
Marriage, or partnership, is a struggle. Everyone is one person, everyone grows up in different environments, and there must be a willingness on both sides to reconcile their different upbringings into one union.
Much tolerance, and even more compromise, is required, but it can work if one wants it to.
Personally, I don\’t know if I should admire a woman who puts up with her husband going to a restaurant, silently deposits him when he arrives, and preserves her remorse until he sobers up.
Is it love that men cannot see, or is it just a woman\’s fear that if she leaves her husband, no one will want her?
Shared children watching their fathers stumble around trying to tell them things that don\’t make sense? On the contrary, I would pack my bags for them.
Or does she see in him a devoted husband and father who is otherwise a devoted husband and father, except for the occasional blood rush to the head, which she feels it is her duty to put up with?
I don\’t know.
The same is true in a marriage where the man is constantly making it clear to everyone around him that he is in love with her.
A woman might break herself without his help to keep the home in order, raise the children properly, and have the aroma of freshly baked cake waft over the table when the man comes home, just as he likes it. He tries to see her as well groomed as possible, he is not a man who “dies” quickly at everything, so he does not complain when she complains of pain, and yet, at a party with relatives, he says to her face, “She is worth …… saying
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But then he goes home and reverts back to being a kind, thoughtful man who, despite his faults, would never say such a thing in private.
It is difficult to be in such a bunch, but one is surprised to hear a man come home in an alcoholic daze and speak kindly about his wife.
Conversely, a man who lives a fairy-tale life speaks ill of her in public. I don\’t understand.
Every family has a story. But it is important that our partner is someone we can trust, someone who will be with us not only when we are physically ill, someone who will hold us in their arms and make us feel taken care of even when they are absolutely not right for us, someone who is interested in our problems and will take care of their own needs and It is important that they reward us with everything we need.
Our partners are our allies, and we should not be afraid of being laughed at.
Hiding our feelings at home behind closed doors is not the right thing to do. Let your feelings be expressed elsewhere. It is good for a man to treat his wife carefully in public and not try to be a “real man” by constantly berating her in public or accusing her, for example, of putting things on her belt in a different order than he does at the cash register.
Let\’s tell them to their face how much their behavior hurts us, ask them to make an effort to curb their desire for superiority, and explain that we will love them more if they stop hurting us in any way.